I should have written to you a long time ago. Now that you’re becoming a young woman, the hour is getting late. Soon you’ll be busy changing the world and won’t have the time to listen.
To say you’re the light of my world would be an understatement. As Grandpa’s little princess, you’re a perfect child. You’ll be that perfect child as long as I live. Don’t ever forget that.
As perfect as you are, we both know you’ll make some mistakes. That’s just part of maturing and part of life. As long as you remember you’re a child of God, you’ll be fine. Read your Bible every day, and depend on it. It’ll never let you down. Remember each day what Jesus did for you.
There are still people that’ll expect you to be like June Cleaver or some other “traditional” woman. Forget them. Be who you are. If you want to be a nurse, that’s fine but you can also be a doctor. You can be the President or a Senator. You can be a clerk if you want, but you can also be a firefighter or a mechanic. If you’re so inclined, you can be the boss wherever you are. Don’t accept less than what you want.
You’ll soon notice that there are creatures called “boys.” Unless the “boy” is your brother or dad, stay away from them. They’re curtain-climbing, plague-carrying pack animals. They tend to get in the way of things like school and career plans. Eventually they’ll grow up to be men, but won’t mature emotionally or intellectually. I confess that I used to be a man until I got promoted to being your grandfather. Some men are better than others, but the best one in the world isn’t good enough for you.
A lot of men think they should be in charge of you. They’re wrong. You should be in charge of you. If you choose to have a man in your life, his job is to cherish you and to support you. He isn’t your daddy and is not the boss of you. If he forgets that, I can retrain him. Since I have no other commitments on this earth than to be your grandpa, I can spend as much time as necessary to teach your man how to treat you.
If the man you choose is untrainable, you should trade him in for a good used Jeep or a comfy couch. If he refuses to go away, remind him that your grandpa has mapped every isolated acre in this hemisphere and that he has a shovel and knows how to use it. People disappear all of the time.
Some young women who are not confident, dress provocatively in order to get attention from men. The attention they get is not the type you want. It’s been proven that men look at scantily clad women as “things” and not people. The part of the brain associated with liking cars or other things lights up when they see a provocative woman. When men see a conservatively dressed woman, the higher functioning parts of the brain associated with intellect take over. Don’t be content being objectified. You are more than a thing. You are a powerful, intelligent human being. Don’t present yourself as less than you are.
I know a lot of women, especially caregivers, get men that they’re going to fix. It seems they’re going to take a bad boy and, through the love of a good woman, he’ll be converted to a kind and loving super-provider. It never works. He’ll just drag you down with him and ruin your life, until my shovel helps him disappear.
I understand why the women think that way. Everyone wants to catch a wild horse and saddle break it. Everyone likes the western where the hero catches the bronco, and no one else can ride it. Nobody romanticizes about roping a horse that’s already saddle broke. Just be aware that the wild horse will trample you and move on to the next rider. The mellow, saddle broke horse probably has a credit rating in the high 700’s and a hefty 401K. You’ll find that stability a lot more enticing than having to bail your bronco out of jail for his third DUI, or intercepting a text from his 19 year old secret baby mama.
I’ve given you all of these tips hoping it’ll save you some heartache and pain. Know that I’ll be there whenever you need me. Someday I’ll be called to the next world, but if it’s possible, I’ll still watch over you. Even in the afterlife, I’ll be your biggest fan and loyal cheerleader. I’ll also have my shovel nearby.
Charlie Melton can be reached by emailing him at firstname.lastname@example.org or writing him at P.O. Box 378, Norris City, Il 62869. Other warranties void if you harm my Granddaughter.